Emergency Planning: Leaving the Abuser

You need to leave some money and extra keys in a hiding place incase you need to get away quickly.
Keep important papers or copies in a place that you know you can grab them quickly in case of emergency.
Try to open your own bank account by a certain date if you planning to leave by that date.
If you are able to talk to a lawyer it would be a good idea.
Buying an extra cell for emergencies is always helpful before the departure.
Finding a job can help with become independent from your abuser.
Keep the phone numbers of your parents, friends, lawyer, boss, minister, or anyone else you would consider trustworthy.

Tell people who take care of your children which people have permission to pick up your children and that your abusive partner is not permitted to do so.
Set up a Code Word only trusted individuals and your children will know.
If in the event of leaving or in need of your children to hide teach them the Code Word.
Inform these people when going through the process of leaving the abuser or if you have already left. Notify Daycare Staff, Principal, Teachers, Sunday School Teacher, Coaches, and anyone else involved in your child's education.
If you have left the abuser tell the trusted people that if your abuser is near or at your house to call police.
If you feel more safe with a dog, it would be a good investment.

Have pictures of any bruises or wounds left from your abuser.
Try to call the police immediately when abuser lashes out.
Save any voicemails or text that are threatening. Courts will look at the messages of the abuser if they were spam calling or texting. This is a common tactic of abusers.
If you have to allow children visitation with abuser try to have a witness with you at every trade off. Trading off at or near a Police station is always a good idea.
If abuser lashes out on you after you are separated please call 911 immediately. If you are at the Law Enforcement Department they will have cameras and officers on duty.